Some things you can control. Some you can’t. Some you can learn. But truly, a frustrating amount of your earnings in this industry is just luck.
I sat down with the right guy recently and he ended up spending about $1,700 on me over a few hours. He was about to leave. I almost walked by him. The sale happened in part because I had a body type he liked and I conversed in a way he enjoyed, but honestly, the transaction hinged on luck.
I don’t know how to go about figuring out what you could make in the hypothetical. But in my experience as a stripper, and from what I have heard from my friends who strip, webcam model, and escort? Doing it is the only way to get your ballpark number.
I understand the curiosity though. I was curious once upon a time too, and could have written a similar question, ha.
Please feel free to follow up or MeMail me if you have any particular questions or thoughts. I know that my answer isn’t the number that you were looking for, but I hope it is still helpful. posted by Peppermint Snowflake at 6:01 PM on [35 favorites]
Your post leaves me a little concerned that you may not have an entirely realistic idea of what sex work entails. If the friend who suggested escorting to you doesn’t actually have connections to the world of high-end escorting, is it possible they meant it as an offhand compliment and not a serious career suggestion? If you’re interested in pursuing sex work then by all means look into it, but the best place to start is probably with information written by sex workers for other sex workers, rather than websites or other advertisements intended to attract customers.
For any type of freelance worker starting out and uncertain how to price themselves, I would give the following advice: there are people doing your type of work for anywhere from $10 to $10k an hour, and where you fall in that hierarchy depends on almost infinitely unpredictable (unless you have a mentor, but often even then) factors. You may as well start out by offering your services at the minimum rate you won’t feel like a fool for accepting, and when you get swamped with offers increase your fee until you have a work load you can handle and can still be choosy about your clients. THIS IS VERY GENERAL ADVICE. Good luck. posted by milk white peacock at 6:06 PM on
Of all the different friends that have worked as escorts I have known, regaling me with tales of their “dates”, none have included dinner luxy date, much less a show. They usually charged around $200/hour – more when they were underage, spent in a mid-level hotel room (I’m not sure who was responsible for the hotel cost, not that I think of it), where there was little conversation/date-type activities and the women stuck tight to the time line as they had other customers scheduled back-to-back. It really was work, and nothing like a date. GFE meant they were dealing with insecure guys they could manipulate a little easier, not that they were treated like a girlfriend. posted by saucysault at 6:25 PM on
Provider pricing is almost always hourly, and it’s determined largely by your geographical area, your services provided, your experience and trust level in the hobbyist community, and your target demographic. A good rule of thumb is to set an hourly rate equivalent to an attorney in your area. Pricing varies wildly between demographics and advertising venues: e.g., someone advertising on Craigslist is charging much less, but is exponentially more likely to be someone working in vice. Hobbyists are willing to pay a ount for someone who’s trustworthy, not flaky, and known to not be a vice cop. Be willing to start out at a slightly lower rate than the going one, as you build up a network of trust.